But this weekend was a yummy time. My husband for the first time in years planned for my birthday. He didn't care enough before to put any effort into it. But this time, it was different. He has been smiling for weeks...I have been stressed out wondering if its another woman thats put that smile there...on Friday all was revealed.
He surprised me with breakfast at the Cape Nature Reserve - a little cold, but I could see whales from the cliffs. As we entered into the gates the R85 charge just to get into the reserve got his attention. But not a complaint anywhere in sight. This man, who would be constantly insistently complaining about EVERYTHING. He was so desperately unhappy with his life...this time, whatever passed through his mind, stayed there and I smiled as he produced his card to pay.
After breakfast, we went and bought our sons first booster seat for the car. I never thought I could love being a mom, as much as I do.And then ta da...he packs a bag for an overnight stay at the 12 Apostles....O.M.W The 12 Apostles, is one of those posh places you are forever driving past and wishing you could just see inside of the place.
He could only afford one night, which I am sure has bankrupted him for the rest of the year...but oh man, what an experience. He booked us for a couples message. Now at first, I wasn't so sure about that. My recovering porn addict of a husband, with another womans hands on him...mmmmm. But I quizzed him about it. He said, if it got weird, he would end it. So off we went together for our message...and let me tell you, those things are to painful to get a boner of any kind LOL We both enjoyed it though. It was so relaxing and I think it safe to do together as a hobby, whenever we can afford it.
Its NB that we find pleasant stuff to do together...when boredom sets in, it only brings in rot. Plus I felt refreshed and beautiful and thats a feeling worth holding on to.And then we went for dinner. Of course the portions were miniscule - but I was to busy being impressed with my husband to care. After dinner, we headed up for our sea facing room and with the smell of sea I felt happy. The sea calms me down like nothing else. I stood there and watching the growing greyness over the ocean and praised GOD. I never thought I would see this day come, when I would still be with my husband.
We spoke spoke about going to go see a movie at the inhouse theatre or perhaps going over to bar later...we of course, babyless - fell promptly asleep at 9pm. I woke up to the sea and an amazing breakfast. We checked out and then met up with my family for lunch. My sister flew down from Johannesburg and there were tears and smiles all around.
That for me, was the pinnacle of my birthday. Having my family around me...and while it shouldn't mean much, I am glad my husband paid for it all. It hurt that he paid for a prostitute, when even going out home made picnics was expensive for him. It hurt that he spent more attention to his flings than he did me. I have seen my husband on full charm and believe me he was spending money...just not on me....so there a little bitter slice in me, that enjoys it when he now pays for stuff...and he definitely paid big time, this time.
So all in all, a successful weekend YAY!!!
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